How To Achieve A Balanced And Satisfying Life?

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REDUCE What You Don't Need

How would you describe yourself? People are often described as strong, independent, self-reliant, and assertive. At the same time, we are indeed social beings; we need interaction and mutual dependence. In this way, we come to a conflict between individualistic and collectivist cultures.

The perfect prototype of individualism is social networks, which, in principle, should connect us. But instead of this, they are just space where we create ideal images of ourselves. We are distant not only from others but also from ourselves. Mobile phones have entered our lives so much that they even have space in our bedrooms.

What Is Our Goal?

The English expression FOMO = has a great role in social networks. It's that feeling that we are missing something important. You feel that you must be everywhere and see everything; on the contrary, something important will escape you. It is an acute and illegitimate fear that others are living longer and better than you; they easily handle any situation in their lives and are happier even though the reality is often different.

Finally, we would have a fear of the unknown of missing something. It is the fear of the feeling that we do not know what we are missing. The Guardian newspaper writes that it is not fear of what we see but instead of what we do not see by not checking social networks. Alternatively and inversely, it happens when your friends do not post something on social networks because it implies that they are having a good time and therefore do not have time to post.

And so where do we want to go? To the joy of omission. To the satisfaction with us and the feeling of not missing anything. One of the goals is to learn to reasonably regulate our impulses as a result of interaction with other people and social networks. Likewise, learn how to make decisions freely and know how to choose just in time and correctly. In simple words, to live in freedom and with satisfaction.

Stereotypes And Myths About Psychologists, Psychology and Counseling

1. The psychologist is crazy

I mention this stereotype as the first because, according to my opinion and my experiences, it is the one that is most widespread among people. Surely, each of us knows someone who smokes a cigarette when stressed because he does not know how to relax differently and probably otherwise does not master this situation since this is his learned reaction. For none of us, this reaction seems different, strange; we do not think that this person has a weakness because she does not know how to handle her stress. But when a person visits the psychologist because he does not know how to cope with his stress or other problem, he is socially classified as crazy. When instead, this means that the person is aware that they are not managing their stress and wants to improve their skills, they want to do something about their problem. But seeing it differently, When a person lights a cigarette just because he is stressed, he never learns to handle difficult situations. Psychotherapy is not to eliminate stress resources, it does not have scope for this, but it teaches us how to manage stress and emotions in each situation. We gain the skills that we can tap into at any time in the future; it enables us to break free.

2. My best friend is my best psychologist

I often hear the opinion, “I don’t need a psychologist; I have a great friend; he is the best psychologist.” Yes, thank you for all our great friends; they are irreplaceable. And this way it works; Friendship and good social support often help us in difficult situations, stress or depression. Even if your intentions are good and your advice may bring relief to us for a moment, they may not be as helpful to us in the long run.

3. The psychologist is a stiff old woman or an automobile with a beard.

Now try to imagine a psychologist, what does he look like? For many, the answer will be an older, cold, serious, and even intimidating adult. A stereotype that could not be further from reality. At present, a psychologist can be between 23 (which is more or less the age when he finishes university) and 99 years old, if his mental and physical health allows him to continue in the profession of psychologist. Just as we have various types of people, we also have various types of psychologists. Some laugh along with their clients during therapy, others remain serious, and there will surely be those who do not wink all the time to lose even a bit of their authority. It all depends on the therapeutic course that the client chooses.

4. The psychologist is a magician or a miraculous healer

Why do they call us wizards or witches? Many people come to the first session with no idea of how counseling or psychological therapy works. Some arrive with the expectation that the psychologist, already in the first session, will tell them what all their problems are, give them precise advice on how to solve their problems and, without any effort, improve the quality of their lives. And how does it all end? The client leaves the session, disappointed and unhappy at not getting what they expected. Many times I also find the opinion that psychologists are like the criminalists in television series, who know everything about their clients based on their behavior in very isolated cases.

5) The counselor is different than the psychologist.

The psychologist has the ability to provide medicine to treat your conditions. Counselors give you the opportunity to do more background work over a period of time where they spend a lot of time listening and dialoguing about your past and present situations. Find the right counselor is huge in getting started. Once you have found the counselor that fits your preferences, you can then move on to a psychologist if you feel like you need more help medically.…

Are We More Sociable People Thanks To Social Networks?

Everyone already talks about it; sometimes, it is even annoying. Why then did I write my first blog on social media? But, when I imagine how many times during a day something about social networks is found in the speech of a young person, my calculations undoubtedly end up being lower, especially due to the psychological importance that the phenomenon of social networks hides. When we are maturing, we create our identity, the image that says who I am, how I am, how others see me, my friends, my family, where I belong, and where I don’t. Social media, especially Facebook, allows teens to create their ideal self-perception. On their profile, they post what they want others to know about them. They want to show themselves, be seen, and captivate others’ attention, not be hidden.

Teens present themselves on Facebook in different ways: they upload photos, videos, things they like, they identify with different groups. They present themselves as they want to be seen in their social environment. At the same time, Facebook is a criterion of popularity; Who has how many friends? Who gave me how many “likes”? What comment did they write to me? If I have enough of these answers, my social environment perceives me as a popular, successful, and interesting person. Adolescents create their self-perception, especially based on what others think of them. When they are popular on Facebook and have positive feedback on the things they teach others, they feel better, have more joy, and are more satisfied. What’s going on, If I get more negative feedback than positive? Does that interfere with my self-perception? This is the main reason why teens spend so much time on Facebook. Your profile has to be the best possible so that more “likes” and positive responses get there (especially if we talk about the teenagers). Little by little as one is becoming more mature, this need for the ideal profile disappears, and the profiles of adolescents (16 years and over) on social networks become more real. They are more like the reality that continues in the virtual world.